While watching the Lifetime Movie channel one day, Stacie came across the Deidre Hall story and her head began to spin around how the idea of becoming a surrogate. She loved being pregnant and her birth experience with her son, Austin was perfect in her eyes. She began researching online and learning more about the process before she finally applied with an agency in California. Being a surrogate changed her life. It opened her eyes to the challenges of infertility and how it effects couples that struggle to have a family.
Stacie gave birth the first time as a gestational surrogate in 2003. She had triplet girls! It took five transfers to get an embryo to implant and the fifth time they transferred two embryos and one split. Stacie’s biggest fear was having multiples, resulting in a C-section. She got triplets and an automatic C-section. It was absolutely one of the hardest things she ever did in her life. The numerous doctor appointments were a hassle, she ended up on bed rest, and she delivered the triplets at 32.3 weeks, ending with her needing a blood transfusion after the birth. But even with the high-risk pregnancy and all her struggles, Stacie said it was worth it in the end to see the couple with their babies for the first time. “It’s an amazing experience I can’t put into words.”
All her journeys after the triplets were smooth sailing. In 2008, she gave birth to twin girls via gestational surrogacy. Then in 2009 she gave birth to a boy via traditional surrogacy. In 2012 she had a baby boy named Nicolas, for a same sex couple, Jim and Carlos. She went on to give them a second boy named Sebastian, in 2013. Both pregnancies were via traditional surrogacy.
“My most memorable moment was when Nicolas came running into the hospital room with his big brother shirt on. He had the biggest smile on his face. Watching him hold his baby brother Sebastian for the first time was an incredible feeling. The brotherly bond between these two boys started right then, at a very young age of 20 months old and one day. My heart melted into a million pieces when I saw them all together as a family of four, when just two years prior they were only a family of two, hoping and wishing to grow bigger.”
Stacie thought she was done with surrogacy in 2009. Her friend contacted her about a same sex couple that lived in the Los Angeles area that were looking for a traditional surrogate. Her heartstrings began to pull and she thought maybe she could do it one more time. They agreed to meet. They drove down to Las Vegas to meet for lunch on December 23, 2010. Stacie was very nervous meeting Jim and Carlos for the first time, but it was an easy and natural meeting. “It felt like it was just meant to be,” she said. She felt like they had been friends and had known each other for years. They talked for a few hours and agreed on all aspects of the journey. After that meeting, we all agreed to work with each other and got the contracts and screenings done quickly so they could begin the baby-making process.
Their first attempt sadly ended with a blighted ovum and a D&C. It then took them three tries before they got pregnant in June 2011. The pregnancy went well and Nicolas was born on February 10th, 1012. During the pregnancy, they had discussed a sibling project. The doctor said they needed to wait nine months after the birth to try again. In January 2013, they were surprised and thrilled to have the very first transfer work. After another great pregnancy, Nicolas became a big brother on October 5th, 2013.
Jim and Carlos travelled the four hours from LA to Vegas for almost all the doctor appointments, even with a toddler in tow during the sibling journey. She bragged that they were the best guys and dads that two little boys could ask for. The contact she had with the guys during her during both journeys was wonderful. They still keep in touch via texts, Facebook, and visits. She feels very honored to have been their surrogate and to have the relationship she does with them still. She receives pictures and updates of the boys frequently. Watching them grow up has been a blessing for Stacie. Their journey grew into a beautiful friendship and they are truly like part of her family now. Her son Austin is now 16 years old. He was five when Stacie gave birth to the triplets. Surrogacy has been a huge part of his life as well.
She says having a baby for a same sex couple was no different than a traditional couple, other than the obvious two men difference. They were a couple that loved each other and wanted a family of their own and Stacie was able to help them just like the previous couples she met.
“I’m so glad that Jim and Carlos reached out and contacted my friend looking for a traditional surrogate. I can’t imagine not having gone through those two journeys with them, and not having their amazing boys here with us. Everything happens for a reason and us coming together like we did was definitely supposed to happen. We are on a new journey now that I’m still blessed to be a part of, which will hopefully last a lifetime!”
Something Stacie has learned is to never say she is done. She was finished surrogacy in 2009 and went on to have two more babies that she couldn’t imagine not having. So now she says instead, “stay tuned”…