Being a parent changes your world. It can encompass so many beautiful qualities and doesn’t have to be defined by a biological connection. The common thread is the unconditional love one feels for their child. For Meredith being a surrogate is a rewarding experience that brings that love to life. She has helped two couples through surrogacy and her journey isn’t over yet.
I have three amazing children and have been married to my wonderful husband for more than 10 years. Being a mother is such an incredible gift that involves so many emotions. I knew I didn’t want to have any more children of my own, but wanted to help another family. I had easy pregnancies and labors with my three children so I started researching surrogacy. A few months later I signed on with an agency and the journey began!
My first surrogacy journey started in late 2007 and I was matched with Intended Parents within a relatively short time. We got started just after the New Year in 2008. Over the next three years we experienced some challenges. Although faced with some difficult obstacles we were still filled with hope and optimism. That positive energy was sent out to the world and I delivered a healthy baby boy in February 2011. I remember hearing the parents anticipating the arrival of their baby and the happiness they expressed, realizing the day they dreamed of was finally here. They had tried for 10 years to have a child. Now, they held him in their arms. I was very proud to help achieve what we set out to do, making a family complete.
In August of 2011 I was introduced to a couple by mutual surrogate community friends. At that time I wasn’t necessarily looking to start another journey right away, but it felt “right” as soon as we met. The intended parents had pre- viously been matched with another surrogate and had several setbacks in the beginning. They lost their son in the 2nd trimester due to complica- tions. My heart broke for them but I was amazed by their strength to persevere. We began the pro- cess and implanted two embryos, however; on our ultrasound day some very surprising news showed up on the screen. One of the embryos had split and I was carrying three babies. But in my 10th week of pregnancy, the third baby’s heartbeat had stopped. We looked at the positive side, knowing that two healthy twin girls were on the way. The pregnancy progressed great with no signs of early delivery. But, I awoke in the middle of the night to my water breaking at 32 weeks. The girls were de- livered three hours later with both mom and dad in the operating room with me. Even though it was a little scary for all of us, knowing it was early for the girls to be arriving, it was still an amazing experience. Hearing those first cries was sweet relief and the parents were filled with joy. I have many special memories from that day, but one stood out to me right after the girls were born. Even though their mother was not yet allowed to hold her babies, I sat and silently watched her bounce back and forth between them. She was watching them and worrying about them, but the pride and love she felt for those new tiny babies shined throughout the nursery. It is the definition of being a mother. The girls did very well and were released after four weeks in the special care nursery. It has been amazing to watch these beautiful girls grow and to see how adored they are by their family.
I would love to continue to be involved in surrogacy and help another couple. I have learned so much in the last six years from my own experiences and my friend’s experiences. I have met many wonderful people who have been an amazing surrogacy support system. These women are caring, giving, strong and just really awesome people. Both the surrogates and the intended parents are incredibly inspirational, relying on each other during this journey together. Being a parent is not always easy and takes a lot of determination, strength and sacrifice. But no matter how much “work” it is, it is so worth it in the end. For me, the same goes for being a surrogate, you give so much of yourself and the result is always well worth it.