Despite already being a busy Mom of four girls, Tiffany Main was inspired to help create other families by being a gestational surrogate. With two successful journeys complete and a third underway, Tiffany is now embracing a support role to help other women embrace the joy of surrogacy.
When Tiffany decided to become a gestational surrogate, she had no idea how much of a team effort her journey would be. Her family and friends praised her decision, and with the loving support of her husband, Jason, she matched with A & T in November of 2007. But the long, three-year journey was marked with two failed transfers, and many ups and downs.
Tiffany, who lives in Northern Illinois, wrote a blog of her journey and in one of her early entries she wrote, “They aren’t kidding when they say surrogacy is all about playing the “hurry up and wait” game.”
Through it all, Tiffany stayed strong and didn’t give up. In 2008 she met Daisy, through a local moms group. Daisy had just finished her first egg donation and the two women became instant friends. The friendship was exactly what Tiffany needed as she continued on her journey. She had someone to confide in that understood what she was going through.
The third transfer was the lucky one and her dream of being pregnant for A & T finally began. A relationship with her Intended Mother (IM) really blossomed and Tiffany blogged about how much she was enjoying the friendship. She wrote, “Our bond through motherhood has connected us.”
On April 24, 2010, Tiffany gave birth to a healthy, baby boy, weighing ten pounds! Despite all the struggles to conceive, grow and birth baby Giovanni into this world, he did come and he brought with him a tide of joy for everyone involved.
It wasn’t long before Tiffany was searching to help another couple. In December of 2010 she matched with a new couple, K & S. Tiffany did wonder how her second journey would compare to the first. “I had an amazing first journey and a friendship that blossomed with my IPs and I didn’t know if I could maintain my relationship with them while pursuing another journey. That made me nervous. However, like they say when you have another child; love multiplies, it doesn’t divide. My second IPs were very different from the first, yet we too became close.”
Again, this journey carried with it ups and downs that included a failed transfer and a chemical pregnancy. But Tiffany’s perseverance paid off a second time, when the third transfer stuck and she got her positive pregnancy test in early February 2012. But this pregnancy would surprise her when an ultrasound uncovered not one baby, but two babies! Tiffany was carrying twins for K & S!
Even with the risk of twins, the pregnancy went well for Tiffany and at 36 weeks, twin boys, Ryan and Mason, were born via c-section on September 18, 2012. They were both healthy and happy, and parents K & S welcomed them into the world.
And now Tiffany embarks on a new journey for a third couple. This journey too has had its disappointments, as she prepares for her third transfer. But Tiffany has seen the rewards that patience has brought her and her previous two IPs. She continues to stay positive and looks towards the future.
On her blog, Tiffany shares pictures and updates of the amazing surrogate babies she grew. She continues this blog not only for her friends and family, but also for other surrogates to see the beauty in the journey. Support has now become something she wants to give back. She has joined the ‘Expect Miracles Surrogacy Agency’ team, as a consultant. She says, “I really don’t know how women go through this process without having a single connection to another surrogate. That always just baffles me. It’s such a complex process – beginning to end – and it’s so important to have someone who just “gets it”.”
By being a consultant, she hopes to inspire other surrogates and guide them along their journeys in whatever way possible. Tiffany would offer this advice to other women considering surrogacy: “This isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. You must be loyal, patient and above all compassionate. The journey isn’t about you. It’s about what you can do to help.”